Did you notice a gradual shift in the behaviour of your child lately? Ever wondered the reason you’re being spoken about your kid’s behaviour in every parent-teacher meeting?
Do you know the difference between controlling your child and teaching them to learn self-discipline?
Educating our kids about self-discipline was discussed pretty often between both of us. It has been a focal point since the birth of our elder son, almost 7 years ago.
As working parents, both of us wanted our kids to learn self-discipline and anger management skills at an early age so that we don’t face much trouble later in life.
With our little knowledge and some exploration, our elder son learned to make healthy choices, self-discipline, patience, pressure management, self-care and manners.
In this blog post, we’re sharing 5 clever tips by which our elder son has become the star of his school and our family.
1. Establish a daily routine
You’re a busy parent and certainly trying to balance between work & home, your health and between your kids. So, how would you make an effective home routine for your kids to follow each day?
Planning and organising your child’s daily routine isn’t a fairy tale, though it requires three main elements: planning, effort and consistency.
Though we often didn’t reiterate the household rules since we had already set up a day and evening routine for our kids. Sticking a day to night schedule on the ‘fridge door’ has been incredibly effective in sticking us and our kids with the planned routine.
This exercise created a feeling of target-achievement, pressure-handling and responsibility in our elder son. Additionally, we noticed that he became happier, more creative and more talkative.
2. Limit screen time
It’s not a rocket science to understand the fact that today’s generation is a digital zombie.
It’s healthy in a way if they’re learning about digital devices as a subject or they’re studying online (essential). Though we believe that going beyond those limitations could potentially turn around their behaviour, making it even harder to teach self-discipline.
We learned a few years ago that both our children show tantrums and disobeying tactics to get the devices back in their hands.
Since we’ve been setting and reiterating the limits on screen time almost every day, our children involve themselves in productive, creative and learning activities. Though it’s a gradual process and we do get hiccups, yet we’re consistently training.
3. Communicate the reason behind rules
We often seen parents setting the rules at home without adhering the cause of its establishment with their kids. We ask them a simple question of whether an adult would follow the rules regardless of the background?
We’ve been trained the same way, consequently, went through huge problems soon after our elder son turned into a toddler, as he won’t follow what both of us instructed him.
Not long after, we started stating the cause of the ruling, such as stating ‘You should complete your homework today because it’s due tomorrow and your teacher will be upset if you don’t complete one’ rather than saying ‘Do your homework because I’m telling you’.
It appeared much easier to understand the cause of our instruction for him.
4. Compliment and reward good behaviour
Since your child is following a guideline set by you and understands the reason behind a limitation, you should move a step further and encourage them to repeat the same behaviour.
We believe that offering reward varies within age groups. For example, our toddler (younger son) sees the bottle of milk and a pack of chocolate as a reward while the junior gets encouraged if we offer him a 30 min session on his Xbox or take him to the Mcdonald’s.
Praising and rewarding our children makes them feel good about themselves and motivate them to repeat their action.
5. Communicate effectively
Whether you have a toddler or a teenager, your time and attention matters to them as it raises their confidence, self-esteem and communication skills.
Due to our overly burdened and occupied life, we never had a chance to peacefully sit with our elder son to speak about his day, school and his friends.
We’d think that he’s a shy individual though he was a chatterbox! And interestingly, we learned this trait a few days after his 3rd birthday since we took one week off from work and stayed at home.
Our son felt respected, proud and developed more self-disciplinary behaviour. He showed greater patience level and developed excellent hearing skills.
Conclusion: Be Patient
Building and teaching self-discipline skills will take plenty of effort, commitment, consistency, attention and above all, patience. Ticking all the boxes to make them a responsible adult is not a piece of cake though consistency is the only key. In this blog post, we’ve revealed the ways that brought positivity in our son’s life and shaped him as a responsible person.
We hope it helped you in some way.
Can you tell us of a helpful tip to build a healthy parent-child bond? Let us know in the comments below.